I don’t like change…like I really don’t. Even with the changes I actually want, I have a hard time dealing with it, because come on…it’s change! Yet, as much as I don’t like change, I have changed a lot from that happy go lucky girl who looked at the world through rose-colored glasses. I mean, I am still part of that girl, and my glasses are still rosy—just cracked. I hate that. But that all changed…and this time it’s something I want to embrace…
My beautiful friend Samantha married her best friend in the whole world this past Saturday. It was seriously a beautiful wedding. I had the fantastic opportunity of walking through this entire process with her. I was there, along with the one who would be the best man (as well as another couple who also would be in the wedding party) when she got engaged. We got to dig a heart in the sand on a rainy day at the beach, videotape it, and rejoice with them after she said yes. I got to help her plan the wedding and had the privilege of being her maid of honor. But then the weekend of the wedding came. I had no idea how much my world would be rocked!
For two days, I became a stranger…someone I hadn’t seen in a long time. I became myself again. My mom came with me and kept Isaiah at a hotel, have him show up to be ring bearer, then let me enjoy myself. I honestly and truly haven’t enjoyed myself in a VERY long time as much as I did this past weekend. For the first time in over three years, I didn’t have to be mommy. I wasn’t invincible. I didn’t have to be the responsible one. For once, I didn’t have to be the strong one. I didn’t have to hold it all together for everyone else’s sakes. I wasn’t the warrior that I’ve had to be the past couple years. I didn’t have to hold back and be “chill.” I could be ME…and I realized how much I missed me. I seriously had one of the best nights of my life the day of the wedding.
But now, back at home, I don’t want to give that up. So it got me to thinking…all these things…the way I felt…those are all good things! But I can be exciting and fun and awesome and still be mommy and responsible and strong! I an going to be MORE awesome than I was back then! I did not go through the last couple years of hardship to have it defeat me. I can look back fondly on my days of no responsibility with fondness, but everything I have gone through should BUILD on that. God has given me things that I don’t understand. I shouldn’t allow anything to take away from that. I am honestly so much better and stronger than I was before. It just took a wedding, a hysterical, stressed out bride, some new (and old) friends, and an awesome weekend to remind me that God made me the way He made me…not just as a memory, but as a masterpiece.
